How to talk to strenger.

1. How to talk to strangers
Walking up to people you don't know and striking up a conversation is the social equivalent of skydiving. It's fun and interesting, but risky. It might also change your life. If you make the effort despite your fears about talking to strangers, you might accidentally have the time of your life. So,


Part 1 to 3;
Managing Your Anxiety



1  . Practice until talking to Stranger is second nature. The best way to overcome social anxiety is by confronting it head-on. Talking to Strangers is like any other skill: the more you do it, better you get at it. Wit enough practice, it will feel completely natural to you. You won't even have to think about how to manage conversations with strangers. The best way to practice is to set weekly goals.
2. Don't overwhelm yourself! If you find talking to strangers overwhelming, take it slow at the beginning. You might begin by promising yourself that you'll talk to two strangers in a week. Add one person each week.







2. Attend social events by yourself. That's right- don't invite anyone along. Put yourself in a social situation where you won't known anyone else. Without any friend to hide behind , you''ll be more likely to put yourself out there. Keep these outings low-stakes. If oyu don't talk to anyone the frist couple times, that's fine! You still went out were among stranges, which you never would have done before! Look for events around town where you'll be able to starts conversatobs with strangers.
 
. Art shows
. Book readings
. Music concerts
. Museum exhibitaions
. Outdoor festivals
. Geek gatherings
. Parades/rallies/protests






3. Ask a friend to help .If the idea of talking to a strangers on your own is too much, enlist thje help of a more outgoing friend. With her helps,you can practice talking to strangers while still  having a familiar face to make you feel comfortable.
. Don't let your friend carry the entire conversations, though. Mke sure she knowns that you want to contribute more than you might normally contribute.




 
4. Don't  overthink it. If you obsess over alll the ways things can go wrong before you start a conversations with a strangers, you're setting yourself up to fail. The more you think about it, the more anxious you'll get. When you see someone you want to walk to, break the ice immediately, before you have a chance to talk yourself out of it. The adrenaline of the moment will carry  you past your nerves.






5. Fake it till you make it.Talking to strangers can be intimidating and exhausting, especially when the stakes are high. If you go on a job ineterview or want top talk to an attractive person, you might worry that everyone can see how uncertain you feel. But no one knows how nervous you are but you! Just pretend you're more confident than you actually than you actually feel, and the person you're talking to will see what you want them to see.

. Remember. The more you practice talking to strangers, the less you'll have to fake your confidence.






6. Don't rejection get you down. When you start putting yourself out there, you may well get the brush-off from someone you approach. But as a shy persons, you know perfectally well that sometimes, people just don't feel like talking . If talking. If someone rejects your approach , don't take it personality.


. Try to see failure as exciting - it's a chance to learn and improve.
. People don't bite. The worst thing that can happen is that someone will they're busy or want to be left alone. That's not the end of the world!
. Nobody's watching or thinking about you but you. Don't worry aboput people laughing at you -they're all busy thinking about themselves .


7. Talking to a stranger.





  1. Look approachable and friendly. If you look anxious or grim when you open up a conversation, you,re  going to put the other persons on edge immediately. Even if you feel like a mess inside, try to look relaxed and friendly to put other people on edge. This will result in better, longer conversations.


 . Make eye contact. Instead of findding nervously with your phone, look around the room and observe the people. Make eye contact with people to see who else is looking for conversation.
. Smile whenever you make eye contact with people, even if you don't plan to talk them. It both gives you practice in non-verbel communication and raises the odds of someone being receptive to a conversation.
. Open up your body language. Throw your shoulders back, stick your chest out, and raise your chin. The more confident you look, the more people will want to talk to you.
. Don't cross your arms over your chest. People might interpret crossed arms to mean to mean that you're closed off or uninterested in conversations.







 2. open nonverbally before you talking to someone. Others might find it is strange if you start talking to them without giving any hints that you were going to approach them. Instead of walking up and starting a surprise a surprise conversations with the side of someone's head, ease into it nonverbally. Make eye contact and give a smile to establish a connection before trying to start a conversation.







  3. Open with a small interaction. You might want to get to known someone, but opening with deep conversation topics put of the blue might trun people off. If you're doing a cold approach (not reating to something you've both observed ), start small. Intead of openning with a qustion about life goals, just make an observation  or ask for a favor:
. Man, the bar's slammed tonight. We'd better level good tips!
. Traffic's a nightmare today! Do you known if there's an event in the neighborhood.
. Could you plug in my laptop cord for me .The outlet's behind you.
. Do you know what time it is.


  4. Introduce yourself. Once you've opened with your small interaction, you want to find out the other person's name. The best way to do that is simply to offer your own name. Etiqette will basically force the other person to introduce themselves in kind. If he or she ignores your introduction, he or she is either in a very bad mood or is rude- either way, it's best you don’t' try to pursue this conversation.
  . After you've finished your opening interaction, just say ''I'm (your name), by the way. '' Offer a frim handshake as you're introducing yourself.







 5. Ask open-ended questions. If you questions that have yes or no answer's the concersation could up rather than close down. For example:
 . ''What have you been up to today?'' instead of ''Are you having a good day?''
. ''I've seen you here a lot. What keeps you coming back? What's so great about this places/'' instead of ''Do you come here often?''







  6. Ask the persons to explain something to you. Everyone like to feel like they're an expert on something . Even if you known a lot about the subject you end up talking about, ask the person to explein things to you. For example, if a news event comes up, say ''Oh, I saw some headlines, but didn't have time to read the article at work today. Can you tell me what that was about?'' People enjoy conversations more when they feel like they have something to teach.







  7. Don't be afraid to disagree. Finding common ground in a conversation is very important. A  strange as it might seem strange, though, a good disagreement can be great way to form a new relationship. Show the person you're triying to talking to talk to that hanging out with you won't be boring. Engage him in a debate that lets of you shown off your intelligence.
 . Keep the debates light-hearted. If you see the other person getting worked up, back off immediately. . You want a good-natured back and forth, not an argument.
. Make sure to smile and laugh often while debating to let everyone know you're having a good time, not getting upset.





 
  8. Stick to safe topics. While you want to have a debate, you don't want to stray into ares that will lead to an actual argument. A debate about religion or politics might result in hurt geelings, but one about the best travel the best travel spots or football team will stay light-hearted and fun. Other safe topics might include might include movies, music, books, or food.







  9. Let the conversation go where it wants to go. You might be tempted to stick to a prepared list of conversation topics. Doing that would limit that conversation's potential, thought! Let the conversation grow organically. You can try to steer it gently toward topics you're more comfortable with, but don't manhandle it awkwardly. If your partner want to walk about something you don't know much about, just admit it. Ask them to example It to you and enjoy learning something.


Part 3 to 3.
Adjusting to your Specific Context





  1.Keep it light during a fleeting interaction. Talking to people in line at the grocery store or in an elevator is a great way to practice talking to strangers. Because you'll be in the same piace for such a short time, you know that you'll be able to leave the conversation quickly, which can calm you down. Don't get into deep topics during these interactions. Keep it light and observational: ''Man. This elevator smells terrible'' or ''Please convince me not to impulse-buy all this checkout aisle candy.







  2. Have fun during a longer interaction. If you're at a coffee shop, bar, or lounging in the chairs at a book store, you have more time to spend in the conversation. Try to enjoy it! Joke around and show off the fun side of your personality that your long-time friends usually get to see.







 3. Get to known someone you're romantically interested in. If you meet someone you think you're like to ask out, more personal questions. Not only does this make the new relationship immediately more intimate, it also teaches you a lot about the person you're talking to. You can size them upn to see if they'd even be a good match for you.
 . Don't push too far, though. Asking someone if they want to want to have kids in your first conversation would be very overbearing.
 . Instead , offer semi-personal details about yourself, and the other persons decide whether they want to share. For example, ''I'm a real mama's boy/daddy's girl. If we don't talk every day, I just don;y feel right.''







 4 Be professional during a networking opportunity. You might find yourself at a party with someone influential in your line of work. You might be at a professional conference. In any networking interaction, you want people to get the impression that you're confident and capable. Even if you feel anxious about talking to a stranger, Fake it till you make it.
 . Don't make the kind of off-color jokes that might work well at a bar.
 . Sticks to talking about the industry you work in. Shown people that know your stuff and are good at your job.







 5 Try to be memorable during an interview. The interview itself is important, but so is the small talk before and after the interview. Engaging the interview in pleasant conversation shows that you're someone they should want as a colleague. Furthermore, every single interview might answer the questions. They might start to blend together in the employer's mind. Small talk is when you get to bring up a topic that makes you memorable.


 . Share something unique about yourself; ''I skipped rugby practice to come this interview, so you known I want this job!''




 
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